SELF-CONFIDENCE // Hacks I Learnt Last Year

I've written a fair few posts on self-confidence in the past from the point of view of someone who's still very much on their journey to actually being self-confident. Last year my confidence took a fair beating, but along with that came some newfound lessons on rebuilding and maintaining it. I still wouldn't necessarily describe myself as confident, but I'm certainly more sure of myself than I have been in the past so I thought I'd share some of the lessons I've learnt.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOOD PEOPLE // Sometimes it can actually be quite difficult to work out which people make you feel good about yourself and build you up versus who doesn't and 'good people' can be subjective. For me, last year I found myself some genuinely lovely, non-judgmental positive people to surround myself with and it's been so refreshing. Finding people who build me up and who genuinely like me for me has done me the world of good.

DON'T RELY ON ONLINE VALIDATION // I won't lie, seeing the likes shoot up on one of my Instagram photos makes me feel pretty good and there's nothing wrong with that as long as I can stay chirpy when one doesn't do so well too. Sure, it's nice that people on the internet might like what I'm wearing, but it's not the be all and and all and it's definitely not something we should be relying on to make ourselves feel good. At the end of the day I only take Instagram photos of outfits I really like so if I feel good in it the fact it hasn't hit 100 likes on Instagram shouldn't phase me.

TRUST YOUR OWN INSTINCTS // I'm the first person to ask for others' opinions when I have a decision to make or when I've had an idea. While it's obviously great to get advice and guidance, sometimes you have to fight against other people's opinions if your gut instinct is telling you they're wrong. Believe in yourself and when it pays off your confidence will soar.

FIND YOUR LITTLE BOOSTS // There are some very small unimportant-seeming things that can give your self-confidence a quick boost. Everyone's will be different; for me it's wearing a good outfit, having a quick gym session or painting my nails, among other things.

How do you improve your self-confidence?

Amy x

Winter Wardrobe // LOOKBOOK

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I'm normally very much a dresses, tights and boots gal throughout winter, but this season my style preferences seem to have changed a little. I'm all about jeans, jumpers and casual jackets and I'm very much enjoying getting dressed at the moment (which is handy I suppose seeing as it's something I have to do every day).

It's nice to have a new sense of how I want to dress rather than always turning to old favourites and styling them the same way; while I've still been turning to old favourites I've been experimenting a little more with them. Results of said experiment are below if you're at all interested in some of my fave go to outfits at the moment...

Outfit One: Coat - Topshop (here *aff) // Jeans - Topshop (here *aff) // Boots - Dr Marten (here)

Outfit Two: Jacket - Chinese Laundry // Sweatshirt - New Look // Jeans - Topshop (here *aff) // Trainers - Adidas (here)

Outfit Three: Coat - Primark // Jeans - Topshop (here *aff) // Trainers - Adidas // Hoody - Monki

Outfit Four: Coat - Dickies (here) // Jumper - New Look // Jeans - Topshop (here *aff) // Trainers - New Look

Amy x

Hull, UK

Can I Be A Sustainable Fashion Blogger?

Oh hello and yes, I'm sorry, this is another post about sustainability in the space of a month. I promise I'm not going to go all preachy on you, but it's a topic that I suppose I've been thinking about a fair bit recently.

Sitting down at the beginning of the year to have a big blog planning sesh got me pondering on how being a fashion blogger really does clash with being sustainable. So rather than burying my head in the ASOS app and hoping my guilt would somehow disappear, I decided to tackle the issue in a blog post instead and question whether it's at all possible to be a sustainable fashion blogger, however much of a paradox it may sound.

Obviously I'm aware that there are plenty of sustainable fashion bloggers out there who are far more equipped to talk about the topic than me, but the whole point of this post is that I'm coming at it from the point of view of someone who enjoys a little jaunt into Primark, doesn't really pay attention to where or how her clothes are made and can't hold back in the Topshop sale.

In other words, I'm a complete amateur.

When I started blogging about style (I do prefer that term over fashion because I have no idea whether I'm actually fashionable at all, but I do enjoy getting dressed so there ya go) there was a lot of pressure to be seen in the latest trends, never to post the same outfit twice (both of which I didn't actually adhere to) and to generally buy a lot of new clothes (definitely did adhere to this one to be fair). Nowadays I feel like that pressure has been relieved, which is obviously excellent and it's changed the direction and purpose of fashion blogging as a whole.

Which leaves a lot of us wondering, what do we do now?

Over the past year I've already made a lot of changes in how I shop without even really thinking about it all that much. I've only bought things I really love (yes I do realise how ridiculous that sounds) , I've shopped locally more often than not, I've given up 'hauls' completely and despite never thinking I would, I've started investing in less, better quality items over lots of fast fashion.

The change in attitudes towards fashion blogging has certainly made being more sustainable easier; people don't mind if you post the same outfit multiple times, in fact it's applauded. The insatiable desire to own the latest 'in' thing that every blogger and their dog is wearing seems to have massively died down too.

While the above is all extremely positive, it does mean that as fashion bloggers (and therefore, presumably, fashion lovers in general), we have to question where we stand; how can we remain true to ourselves and our passion while not ignoring the responsibility we have to make some sustainable changes now we know the impact fast fashion can have?

At the end of the day, we're not all going to become sustainable goddesses overnight and as is the case most of the time, it's the gradual changes that stick. So for now I'm happy that I have at least been taking some positive steps towards becoming more sustainable fashion-wise and I'll still be blogging about my personal style; just maybe expect to see a little more outfit repeating and second hand purchases than before.

So can I be a sustainable fashion blogger? Watch this space...

My Love Hate Relationship With Setting Goals

So it's a brand spanking new year; a time we often associate with a fresh start, reflections on the past year and making resolutions for the year ahead.

I must admit I do enjoy the feeling that comes with a new year; I'm sat writing this in bed on new year's day with a load of washing on, a freshly tidied bedroom and all the best intentions of  completing the ginormous to do list sitting next to me. And I feel very content right now.

Somehow the first few hours of 2020 have cleared some cobwebs from my head and it feels good.

One thing I haven't done though is set any sort of resolutions or goals for the year ahead. I realise this is a very divisive topic; some people revel in making yearly, monthly or even weekly goals whereas others despise the pressure that comes with a new year and the assumption that we should use it to strive for something better when we may be perfectly happy with what we already have.

I sit very much in the middle; some years I've loved setting resolutions and goals for the year ahead, but those years have mostly ended in me being bitterly disappointed in myself for either giving up or not achieving what I'd set out to.

To put it simply, I love setting myself goals, but I absolutely hate not achieving them.

This year setting goals felt to me like I'd be starting the year on a negative; already piling enormous amounts of pressure on myself that I definitely don't need as well as not truly believing I'd achieve them all anyway.

So this year I'm resolution and goal free and maybe that's why I feel so, well erm, free.

Next year might be completely different and I might be in a goal setting mood again, but I suppose my point is, if setting goals means you're putting an unnecessary amount of pressure on yourself, are they really worth it? At the end of the day, you do you hun (bloody can't stand that phrase, but sometimes it's just apt isn't it?).

Amy x