Wednesday, 15 March 2017

Let's Stop Judging


This post has been a long time coming and is probably going to tumble out of me in an incoherent rant that's been building up in my head for a while now. I'm talking about judgementalism, which is most certainly not a word but I'm making it one for the sake of this post. The more I hear people judging others on the way they look/dress the more riled up I get about it. I realise that we choose the way we dress in order to create a certain impression so it could be argued that we're asking people to judge us, but I don't think that's true. I think we dress for ourselves, not for other people and although it's nice to receive a compliment on your outfit, it's certainly not nice to hear people judging you or others on your clothes.

The first time I got really angry about this was when I overheard a conversation about a man wearing green trousers. The people discussing this man (who completely unaware of the conversation he would cause, one day innocently decided to wear green trousers) were saying things like 'Why would he ever go out dressed like that?' and 'I don't know what goes through peoples' heads sometimes.' I'm guessing the reason he probably went out dressed like that was because he liked said green trousers. And what's wrong with that? We all like different clothes and when I wear something I like I wouldn't expect people I don't even know to have a conversation about how awful my fashion choice was that day. But, as proved above, maybe I should expect that because that's obviously what people do. It makes me wonder what people must say about me and what I'm wearing when I'm not there and that thought makes me really paranoid and uncomfortable. I can't really act all high and mighty because did I say anything? No. And when people make comments about someone else's clothes to me do I say anything? Still no, I go awkwardly silent and uncomfortable. I'm not very good at speaking up when I should.

So maybe I don't speak up in person, but I'll say it on here instead. Don't judge people on superficial things like how they look and what they wear. Judge people on their actions because what they do and how they act actually shows who they are and what they're like, not anything else.




Do you get judged on the way you dress?

Amy x
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  1. Very nice post darling! And you looks so pretty in the pics!
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    Mónica Sors
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    1. Thank you so much for reading and your kind comment :) xx

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  2. I have definitely been judged on the way I dress before - one time when I went into sixth form wearing a bright pink skater skirt and black patterned tights, two of the girls in the year above me sneered as I walked past and whispered "SLUT" at a level that I could obviously hear! This really knocked my confidence but now I realise that what they did says more about them than it does about me! I 100% agree that judgemental Ian needs to stop!

    Abbey 🌸 www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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    1. Aw that's awful, teenagers can be so mean! You're so right though, it definitely says more about them that it does about you! xx

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  3. I love this look it really suits you. When it comes to being judging on clothing I've had my ups and downs, but in the end all that matters is you're happy with the way you are!

    Alys
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    1. Thanks so much Alys. Yes exactly, as long as we're happy with who we are then we shouldn't worry about what others think :) xx

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  4. I think this post is so true! People should get to dress and be the way they want to be. Great photos :)

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    1. Thank you! Yes definitely and without any judgement! xx

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  5. Great post! We all should strive to be less judgmental. I have to say though, it's definitely difficult not to be judgmental in some situations, it's a matter of taking a step back and thinking before speaking. We may not be able to control every thought that appears in our mind but we certainly can control what comes out of our mouths! It's not worth hurting someone else over.

    www.lovefrommaira.co.uk

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    1. We're all guilty of it unfortunately, but as you say if we just think before we speak then we won't hurt anyone! xx

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  6. Loved this!! I agree there are so many people that need a lesson in not being so judgmental!! When I was younger, at school, I definitely think it's something I was guilty of; not necessarily judging someone from their clothing choice, but just generally judging them by first meeting/appearance when I absolutely shouldn't have done! Now when someone I know does comment negatively on someone's outfit, I just tell them "at the end of the day, does that affect or concern you whatsoever? No, So leave it."

    Lots of love Izzy | www.ADoseOfChatter.com

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    1. Thank you so much - I was definitely guilty of this when I was younger, we've all done it at some point! xx

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  7. I agree with this completely. Style is subjective, and people shouldn't judge others for it. What someone's wearing won't harm someone else. What's the point? Although I have been guilty of not wearing things that I love out of fear of judgement. I've got to stop that.

    This is an excellent post!

    Amber - amberelb.com

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    1. Exactly it's not going to harm anyone apart from the person you judge! It's a shame we have to not wear things for fear of judgement but I've done that before xx

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  8. I'm always being judged for my choice of clothes especially at uni, I totally agree style is subjective though. Great post x

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    1. That's so unfair, I hope it hasn't knocked your confidence at all lovely xx

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  9. Such a very true post, people should stop judging and just let me do there thing! Everyone has different styles, I need to get out my comfort zone for sure!! xox

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    1. Exactly! It's a shame we're stopped from wearing what we want for fear of being judged! xx

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  10. Nice post, I personally don't like to do that as I believe each person has a right to dress how they want and also I hate hearing people being nasty and talking about others behind their back.

    Gemma x
    www.jacquardflower.uk

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    1. Exactly Gemma, I hate hearing it so don't do it :) xx

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  11. I totally agree with you, I also write about that, that people judge others, but that is maybe due to what the fashion industry pushes poeple to (me can only wear black trousers or beige, jeans, gray) and also, from women who are that way, competitive. I really think we should wear whatever we want, we have this one life and that is so short, we have to wear what make us happy! If other people judge? That will happen, but then it's their problem, not ours. By the way, I loved your top :)
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    1. It is their problem definitely but it's a shame when it knocks peoples' confidence! I think it definitely has a lot to do with women being competitive/jealous! xx

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  12. This is such an important post, and where the saying don't judge book by it's cover really comes in. I think we're all a little guilty of it, but as long as we try not to and don't ever say negatives, we'll be okay. I agree with the person above - dress and appear how you personally want to, not for others, because at the end of the day the most important opinion for yourself is yourself.

    Amazing post, I think you should do more like this as it really gets you thinking.

    Amy;
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    1. I really try hard to think before I speak as I know we're all guilty of it but I think about how awful I would feel if someone said things about me! Thanks so much Amy xx

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  13. I think this post is so true but I'm probably also guilty of questioning other people's choices. It's definitely true that we all have our own individual style and we should be allowed to express our individuality through our clothes if we want to. I'm trying to be much less judgmental of what people are wearing and accept that it's really nothing to do with me what other people choose to wear.

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    1. That's good that you're trying to be less judgemental - I think we'd all be a lot happier if we could just wear whatever we want without fear of judgement :) xx

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  14. Such a true and well written post, Amy! We always need to recognize people for who they are on the inside, not the outside! Have a great weekend, my dear xx

    Blessings,
    Edye | Gracefulcoffee.com

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    1. Thank you so much Edye - yes exactly! Have a good weekend xx

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  15. Thank you so much for a post on this Amy! I can't bear it when people judge someone for what they look like or what they've chosen to wear, it's completely their own decision and it would be so boring if we all looked the same! It makes me so uncomfortable when people around me make comments like that.
    Have a great weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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    1. It really winds me up! As you say it'd be boring if we all looked the same! xx

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  16. If I'm honest, I'm not too fussed about people judging others for me for things like how I decide to do my makeup and hair. What really gets my goat is when people make judgements on peoples body's or things they can't control. Like, saying someones swimming costume is a horrible colour is fine, but saying they don't have the figure for it is not fine.

    Corinne x
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    1. Yes that riles me up even more! Why is up to someone else to decide whether someone has the figure for something or not?! xx

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  17. Great post! Gorgeous as always xxx

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    1. Thank you lovely, hope you had a good weekend x

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  18. Wise words, Amy! It's crazy than even today people will go so far out of their way to judge other people - and that's amplified by ten million times online. Some of the things you see people saying on Instagram are terrible! On a brighter note, you look lovely in these photos :) haha.

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    1. Haha thanks! Yeah it really is amplified online and it can be so brutal! xx

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  19. Great post, and although I do agree with you most of us do judge on things like that. x

    LAURA ­| Laura Thinks About

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    1. We've definitely all been guilty of it, but I've really been trying not to! xx

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  20. What an interesting post. I hate it when people judge others, and feeling judged is one of the worst feelings!

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    1. It is a horrible feeling isn't it, so I think why would I do that to someone else? xx

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  21. Girl this post was beautiful and I genuinely couldn't agree anymore! It's so superficial when people judge others on what they wear; it bears no reflection on them as a person!

    Hayley xo
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    1. Exactly! We should judge people on their actions not clothes! xx

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  22. I think having you having your own style is so important. I often hear people making fun of others and it really annoys. What annoys me is the you can't wear that because your too fat. If people feel confident enough to wear it go for it. No one else should have a say!

    Tania || www.taniaalexandraribeiro.com

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    1. Yes I hate that - who is anyone else to say whether someone is the right size for something or not? xx

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  23. I would much rather have individual tastes than be a sheep. I had a friend block me on Facebook because I wore jelly shoes... someone I had known for 15 years haha. Ridiculous. So no I certainly don't judge others for what they wear 😘 Xxxxxxx
    lucylovesbeautyxo.com

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    1. What that's so ridiculous! Also what's wrong with jelly shoes haha? xx

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  24. I'm very picky when it comes to clothes but if I see someone wearing an item I don't like, I tend to say that I don't like the item for myself but kudos to them for rocking it! I mean if we all dressed the same, the world would be dull! I'm a boring dresser; I stick to block colours and basics but that doesn't mean everyone should dress like me! If you want to wear crazy patterns, go for it! Like you said, we dress for ourselves not other people!

    Sian x
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    1. Yeah just cause we don't like things for us/certain things don't suit us, it doesn't mean we should hate on other people for wearing them :) xx

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