This post has been a long time coming and is probably going to tumble out of me in an incoherent rant that's been building up in my head for a while now. I'm talking about judgementalism, which is most certainly not a word but I'm making it one for the sake of this post. The more I hear people judging others on the way they look/dress the more riled up I get about it. I realise that we choose the way we dress in order to create a certain impression so it could be argued that we're asking people to judge us, but I don't think that's true. I think we dress for ourselves, not for other people and although it's nice to receive a compliment on your outfit, it's certainly not nice to hear people judging you or others on your clothes.
The first time I got really angry about this was when I overheard a conversation about a man wearing green trousers. The people discussing this man (who completely unaware of the conversation he would cause, one day innocently decided to wear green trousers) were saying things like 'Why would he ever go out dressed like that?' and 'I don't know what goes through peoples' heads sometimes.' I'm guessing the reason he probably went out dressed like that was because he liked said green trousers. And what's wrong with that? We all like different clothes and when I wear something I like I wouldn't expect people I don't even know to have a conversation about how awful my fashion choice was that day. But, as proved above, maybe I should expect that because that's obviously what people do. It makes me wonder what people must say about me and what I'm wearing when I'm not there and that thought makes me really paranoid and uncomfortable. I can't really act all high and mighty because did I say anything? No. And when people make comments about someone else's clothes to me do I say anything? Still no, I go awkwardly silent and uncomfortable. I'm not very good at speaking up when I should.
So maybe I don't speak up in person, but I'll say it on here instead. Don't judge people on superficial things like how they look and what they wear. Judge people on their actions because what they do and how they act actually shows who they are and what they're like, not anything else.
Do you get judged on the way you dress?