I'm surprised I haven't written this post already, I'm surprised I didn't write it years ago because it's a topic I've always had at the back of my mind since I can remember. I realise that most people don't take their siblings for granted, they love their siblings unconditionally and are extremely close to them. This post is in no way implying anything different, it's just a little reminder to make sure you don't take your siblings for granted, make sure you cherish them and let them know how important they are to you. Posting this today seemed apt because Tuesday is my sister's 21st birthday and tomorrow is her party. Bethany's 21st birthday is something nobody ever really thought would come when she first came into this world - it was expected that her life would be a brief one. In fact it was only really when she became a teenager that I stopped worrying and I started to believe that actually, she would live a long and happy life.
When I was younger I resented other children who had siblings. I realise that's an awful thing to say, but it's true. I was jealous that they had a brother or sister that they could play with, that they could grow up with and I hated seeing siblings argue or fight. It made me angry that while I had a little sister who we all loved and cared for so much and who might not make it, that other children would kick and punch their sibling as if they wished them harm. I didn't get it.
I do get it now. Of course you're going to argue with someone who you live with 24/7 and it would probably be odd if siblings didn't drive each other mad. I probably always got it and was just jealous that I didn't have a sibling to argue and fight with. I am still kind of sad that I never had that, but what I'm extremely happy about is that I had and still do have a little sister to love and care for and who brings me so much happiness.
It's very easy for me to tell people not to take their siblings for granted because as someone who thought she might not have a sibling at this point in her life, I never take Bethany for granted. It's probably easy to take your sibling for granted if they've always been there, always been healthy and you expect them to be there for a long time. But here's a friendly little reminder to tell your sibling that you love them, spend time with them and appreciate them.