Wednesday, 25 April 2018

The Underrated Quality That Is Being Nice





Dress* - Joy (here) | Sunglasses - Primark

In the hierarchy of good qualities to possess, being nice doesn't score all too highly. Fun-loving, outgoing, enthusiastic; they all sound like qualities that make up a person you'd want to be around so they score pretty well. Good looks unfortunately still seem to define to what extent you're worthy of attention so they bump up your score too. And if you're funny? Well you just hit the jackpot because you've achieved the most coveted quality of them all. Don't have any of those qualities? Well you might be 'nice'; the quality that will make you feel like you're nothing special.

Imagine you're describing someone. 'They're very nice' should be a compliment, but instead it's somewhat of a backhanded one; it's used when there's nothing else to say about someone. 'Nice' is seen as a bit of a dirty word, despite the fact that it's actually a very, well, nice one. But what's so wrong with being nice? In fact, isn't niceness one of the purest and most valuable qualities of all? I rate niceness very highly, possibly because I think I'm quite a nice person myself. Someone could be the funniest, best looking person in the world, but if they're not also a very nice person they're not really worth knowing at all.





I often worry when meeting new people, not just because I'm generally shy anyway, but because I'm so bogged down in overthinking everything I say and do around them. Am I being interesting enough? Do they think I'm funny? The thing is, I'm always friendly, I'm always nice and especially on first meeting, that should be what counts and that's what should make a lasting impression. Obviously, I'm in no way saying that any of the other qualities mentioned are bad, just that the one I'm specifically discussing is underrated in comparison.

Aside from a quality in a person, 'nice' is still a seemingly dirty word. Last week when the weather was beautiful I wore this gorgeous Joy dress to work and I received a lot of compliments from people who said my dress was 'nice'. In fact I even had three different people stop me in the street to say it was nice. And it is isn't it? It's bloomin' lovely. In the past I've been guilty of thinking that when people say something is 'nice' it means it's actually not very nice. I realise now that this was, in fact, a complete lack of understanding on my part as to the definition of nice.

(nice: giving pleasure or satisfaction; pleasant or attractive)

I'd like to talk a little bit about this nice dress. The lovely people at Joy offered to send me something and this leapt out at me right away. Floaty florals are fast becoming my go to spring style and this dress makes me feel a little bit like an actual boho sass queen (the temptation to twirl about in it all day is real). I've been dressing it down with trainers, which seems to be another go to for me this spring; something pretty on top worn with trainers to give an outfit everyday comfort and practicality. I'm tempted to say though, that if I was attending my own wedding as a guest, this would be a strong contender for a wedding outfit with some cute white heels.





So here's to being nice, the extremely underrated quality that just happens to also be the most important one of all and here's to wearing nice dresses.

Do you rate niceness?

Amy x

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14 comments

  1. Love your outfit! You look amazing!
    Love the photos too!
    www.recklessdiary.ru

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    1. Thank you lovely! I adore this skirt <3 xx

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  2. Love this post ! And you look very “nice” in that dress xxx
    Katescloset.uk

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    1. Thank you! I will most definitely take that as a compliment :) xx

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  3. I think you've got the nail on the head there as it's incredibly sad but true about describing someone as nice. 😣

    I also have to say I love your dress and I wish I could edit my photos to look as good as yours! 😍

    Izzy Xx

    www.lebellelavie.com

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    1. Aw thank you so much! I've been experimenting a bit with editing my photos recently :) x

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  4. That is such a cute dress! I think niceness is a really underrated quality for people to have, I'm a lot pickier about my friends and niceness is a highly rated quality to have!


    Hope you are having a lovely week so far and you have a fun weekend ahead of you :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

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    1. It's definitely highly rated for me! I had a lovely weekend thank you, it was my hen do! Hope you're having a good start to the week xx

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  5. Ugh totally agree with your words in this post Amy - it costs absolutely nothing to be kind, and yet can contribute SO much to making the world a nicer place, one small step at a time :)

    aglassofice.com x

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    1. It's just really nice to be nice isn't it?! xx

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  6. I definitely relate to what you have said about "niceness" sometimes being a bit of a backhanded compliment, on some occasions that adjective is used as a descriptor by people who are trying to have a dig at someone but in a slightly less overt way, which is a shame! There really is nothing wrong with being described as "nice", I'd be delighted to be thought of as nice myself! I have also experienced what you described when meeting new people, I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself to be outgoing, enthusiastic, and funny when really I should just focus on being nice! If other people don't like it, it says a hell of a lot more about them than it does about me! This dress is absolutely stunning, the floaty florals really suit you!

    Abbey xx
    http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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    1. Thanks so much Abbey! I love the fact that people think I'm nice and try and not care about the fact that they might not think I'm funny/outgoing because you can't be everything! xx

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  7. YES!! Why is nice such a dirty word? Even in school I remember being told off in English for using the word "nice" they practically told me it's not a word worth using! WHY NOT?!!!!! I LOVE THINGS THAT ARE NICE (look you've made me rage now!)

    Oh and that dress is SO nice!!!! Love it!

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    1. As if they told you that in English! Haha sorry for making you rage, but nice is nice isn't it! Thank you!

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