Wednesday, 3 January 2018

New Year, Same Burnt Out Me


Often a brand new year brings with it renewed optimism, motivation, a desire to kick bad habits and adopt better ones. People set resolutions, gym memberships soar, everyone starts aiming for self-improvement. It can be a very positive time of year in many ways and I'm often the first to jump on the bandwagon of healthier eating (this year I'm doing veganuary), but with a new year comes an awful lot of pressure; pressure to make resolutions, to get yourself in the gym, to have a blog strategy for the year ahead etc etc.

I think it's great to use the new year as an excuse to better yourself and if you've made resolutions then good for you. I'm trying not to be a negative nelly in this post, but what I do want to get across is that it's OK if you haven't made resolutions, it's OK if you haven't joined a gym, it's OK if you don't have that blog strategy. Because for me, at the moment, I feel like I put so much time and energy into being the person I already am and doing the things I already do, that aiming for anything more would result in complete and utter burnout. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. I think we place a huge amount of guilt on ourselves when we don't improve at something, which means we're trying so hard all year round and not cutting ourselves any slack. It's important to remember that we are already enough.




I haven't entered the new year with heaps of motivation because I'm tired. I guess that probably means that my resolution needs to be to wake myself up a bit and I think I need to start by doing less rather than aiming for more. I'm pretty good at preaching about the importance of 'down time', but it's not actually all that often that I have it. I might Instagram a picture of my dreamy bath, but I'm probably sat in said bath making a list in my head of all the things I need to do when I get out of it and then feeling guilty for having a bath when I could have done three of the things on my to do list instead. I spend my weekends cleaning, doing DIY or blogging and I see doing 'nothing' as a waste of time because just think of all the things I could achieve during my morning of 'nothing'.

What I need to realise is that my to do list will never be fully ticked off, there are always things to do. Everyone else has a similar amount of things to do, so why do I struggle so much to not only do them all, but also give myself some chill time as well? In reality I think the only difference is that some people can put their to do list aside, forget about it and relax. I can put my to do list aside, but I can't forget about it and relaxing? What's that? So, after starting this post saying that I'm not making any resolutions, I'm going to end it by saying that I've changed my mind. I'm making just one. My new year's resolution is to not only make time for me, but to not feel guilty about it. Self-care is pretty important and it's time I actually took it seriously.




Jumper - Fashion Union (similar) | Trousers - New Look (similar) | Boots - Missguided (here) | Bag - Fiorelli (old)

Have you made any resolutions?

Amy x
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  1. I struggle with not thinking about what I have to do and relaxing when things need doing. Sometimes I try to do a little bit, have a breather and say to myself I'll be able to do the rest easier, and in a better frame of mind if I have this down time. Even if its only 15 mins xxx

    www.natalieleanne.com

    www.natalieleanne.com

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    1. You're so right, I would definitely get tasks done quicker and find them much easier if I just gave myself a few breaks in between! xx

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  2. I can barely sleep nowadays as I just can't stop thinking about what I want to do with my life and my blog. I think we put so much stress on ourselves and sometimes we just need to realise that we're doing the most we can. There's no need to rush and put pressure!
    x Mariya
    www.brunetteondemand.com

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    1. We do put too much stress on ourselves, I hope you take the pressure off yourself and manage to relax and sleep better! xx

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  3. Social media has been burning me out like crazy lately, I think we all need to step back and take a break from the internet whenever we can!

    Beauty & Colour | Vegan Lifestyle Blog

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    1. Definitely! I need to remember to take regular social media breaks for sure xx

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  4. This was a really thought-provoking post, Amy! I have set myself some goals for the New Year, and I will admit that (perhaps stereotypically) a fitness goal does feature on there! I sometimes find that a milestone like a New Year does give me the kick up the butt that I need to make some meaningful changes, but I also totally understand those burnt out feelings that can result from trying to change too many things at once! That's why I have deliberately set myself goals this year which can be spread out throughout 2018, and not things that I'll need to change all at once, in an effort to prevent tiredness, a slump, and then a complete lack of motivation! The importance of self-care really can't be overstated, so I think I need to add another resolution to my list, to look after myself and not push myself too hard just like you are! great post as always!

    Abbey 😘 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk/

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    1. I think it's great that it acts like a kick up the bum for some people! I just hope people realise it doesn't have to be. That sounds much more manageable if you've spread your goals out, I think changing everything at once is where the pressure sets in! And yes definitely set that resolution to look after yourself, it's soooo important xxx

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  5. I actually like this. No need to work yourself up and panic because you didn't set goals. Life still goes on. happy new year.

    http://www.glitsxgrace.com/2018/01/04/morning-habits-every-girl-boss-should-try/

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    1. Exactly! I don't think anyone should worry about it or stress themselves out xx

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  6. I don't make any resolutions for years :) And you are right that we do feel guilty for not ticking all the boxes... but I don't feel like that very much, anymore. There's always another day (and if there isn't - ohhh..., the chores won't mind), and most of the things we think we should have done, can wait a bit, I think :) I think it's good that you changed your mind and your resolution is not "feeling guilty". Loved your jumper, on a fashion note and you look beautiful - and I hope you can relax and feel less tired soon!
    DenisesPlanet.com

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    1. That's great that you don't feel the pressure Denise, I think you have a very healthy attitude! xx

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  7. I've stopped making resolutions as I definitely agree that I end up feeling guilty! Great outfit pictures too, I really like the trousers!!
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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    1. I'm glad you agree, thanks so much Rosanna! xx

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  8. I love your honesty in this post, such a refreshing read. We do sometimes put way too much pressure on ourselves. Keep shining and I wish you the most amazing 2018!

    Much love,
    Marianne x http://mariannesophia.com

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    1. Thanks so much lovely! Hope you have a lovely year ahead (I'm pretty sure you do with your imminent arrival!) xx

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  9. I love your approach to this topic, Amy. I'm in complete agreement; as brilliant as new year's resolutions and goals can be, they're not *quite* so sparkly if they pressure and knacker you in the process! Reminding ourselves we're already enough is definitely the way to go, beautifully said/written :)

    aglassofice.com
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    1. Thanks so much lovely, I'm glad you agree - small goals throughout the year is so much more manageable for me! xx

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  10. YES to this post girl, I'm just writing a post on achieving goals that are realistic and why we shouldn't put too much pressure on ourselves! I hope that you have the BEST year lovely lady! <3

    Hayley xo
    www.frockmeimfamous.com

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    1. Oooh can't wait to read your post lovely! xx

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