How Blogging Has Made Me Less Bitchy

This is kind of a scary post to write because I don't want it to come across in the wrong way, but hopefully I'll manage to jumble some words together that make sense and put across what I want to! I'm not trying to say that I was a massive bitch before I started blogging - I like to think I was quite a nice person, but I would say I was quite judgmental. I'd make assumptions based on few facts about people and even though I wouldn't voice my assumptions I'd still make them in my head.

I think blogging has given me an excellent opportunity to mix with lots of different people - mainly just over social media and through commenting on each other's blogs/Instagram. It's also given me the chance to read a lot of other blogs written by people from all walks of life and also to see the horrific comments and abuse some of these people receive online. 

Now here's where I'm going to be 100% honest and hope you don't all hate me for it. I was completely judgemental of bloggers before I actually took the time to understand the blogosphere and subsequently start blogging myself.

Let me give an example to try and explain my point properly/dig myself out of this hole. I've seen a popular blogger receive nasty comments on Instagram for posting bikini/underwear pictures. Previously I would have made the assumption that this girl must love herself and be really self-centred to post a picture like that, which is exactly what some of the comments were suggesting. I would NEVER have commented it, but I might have thought it. Now through actually making the effort to read her blog and interact with her on Twitter I know that this isn't the case at all. She absolutely has a smoking hot body and an inspirational Instagram feed because of it, but she also has insecurities and off days just like the rest of us, plus she is an absolutely lovely person.

Bloggers receive a lot of unfair criticism and it really truly annoys me to see women tearing other women down when we should all be sticking together and admiring each other. I read a really good quote recently, which I can't remember exactly and I didn't write down, but it was something about channeling our jealousy of other women into something positive and using them as inspiration instead. The quote put it much better but you get the gist.

Previously I have been ignorant and I will throw my hands up and admit that. I've thought nasty things about people just because of the way they dress, I've judged people just on one comment they've made. I think at some point in our lives we all have (unless you're a total saint and then kudos to you).

I think I would have grown up a bit and changed anyway, but I really think blogging sped up the process by allowing me to see past the dreamy Instagram feeds and understand that we are all people and though we may have different personalities, different styles and different ways of going about our lives there is no right or wrong and we should respect each others differences.

What I've found in general is that most people are nice and as long as people are nice then I'm not ever going to make a judgement based on anything else.

How has blogging changed you?

Amy x