Wednesday, 25 July 2018

Beating The Post-Wedding Slump


Your wedding day; the one day you've been waiting for, planning for months and getting excited about, it's over within a few hours, just like that. After the wedding and honeymoon are over, life goes back to normal with an alarming crash down to earth. You spend months building up to that one day and then life goes back to normal. Despite having quite a sensible head on my shoulders and always maintaining that getting married was about the actual marriage and not the wedding, I still felt a sense of well that's it now, nothing else to look forward to. 

Yes, I am being extremely over-dramatic; poor me getting married and going on honeymoon to just come back to normal life eh? But most people I've spoken to about it said they felt a similar way and as I'd like to put the same effort into my marriage as I did into planning the wedding, I'm making an effort to drag myself out of that post-wedding slump so I thought I'd write a post about it so you can all laugh at me being over dramatic. Also, even if you're not in a post-wedding slump, these are all things that would generally pep up a relationship anyway (pep up?! I'm rolling with it).


Regular date nights | It's very easy to fall into the habit of nights in on the sofa, half watching something on TV, half glued to your phones and every now and then discussing something you need to like when you'll get the food shop done or whose birthday you need to remember this month. Not really quality time is it? Nick despises the term 'date night', but as soon as we got back from honeymoon I decided that we needed to put a day or night aside each month to actually go out and do something together. If, like us, you work shifts, it's not easy to always set that time aside especially seeing as you'd generally associate going out with the weekend. But what's stopping you going out on a weeknight instead? For our first date night (sorry Nick) as a married couple, we did just that and were lucky enough to be treated to a night out at St Stephen's shopping centre in Hull, which included a meal at Prezzo and then some bowling. I've eaten at St Stephen's a few times as there's quite a lot of choice of restaurants, but I've never really explored what else they have to offer, which includes a cinema, a trampoline park and Funstation, where, filled with good food, wine and espresso, we headed for our bowling. Bowling isn't something we'd usually do together, but it was actually a real laugh and made me realise that we should do new things together more often rather than sticking to our routine. Trampolining next Nick?

Book a holiday | Irregardless of whether you ask for wedding gifts or not, you get them (THANKS GUYS <3) and with some of the money that we received we decided to book a holiday. It doesn't have to be a holiday, it could be a spa day, a UK break or anything you'd enjoy; it's just nice to have something to look forward to when all you can seem to do is look back and think about what a nice time you had and wonder whether you'll ever have as nice a time again. If by this point you wish to hit me for being so ridiculous then please (metaphorically) do. And if you're wondering where we're going on holiday, that would be New York and I am horribly excited about it.

Plan your future | Although you've probably already got heaps of memories together, your wedding day is just the beginning of a whole marriage of memories to come. Talk to each other about what you imagine doing together in the next few years, where you might end up living, when you want children and, in our case, whether you want to do another house up or not... Planning your future together is very exciting and makes you realise that there are even happier days to come than your wedding day.

What do you do to keep your relationship fresh? (Keep it clean folks)

Amy x

We were kindly treated to a meal and two rounds of bowling by St Stephens Hull, but all opinions and love of pizza are my own.
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  1. I'm so glad I'm not the only person that felt like this - I was fine until we were driving home from our Minimoon and then I just couldn't stop crying! Think my new husband was wondering what on earth he'd let himself in for! Despite having a Honeymoon to look forward to 6 months later I just felt so incredibly sad. You spend so long planning this one day and then it's over just like that! I'm still wedding obsessed and want to do the whole thing again!

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    1. I would totally do the whole thing again! I'm still pinning things to my wedding pinterest board, I can't help myself haha! xx

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  2. Actually I think this happens to a lot of girls and I'm no exception. I was very upset and disappointed, but my husband understood that, we talked and loved each other better
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    1. It's such an odd feeling isn't it, a lot of people I spoke to experienced the comedown too! xx

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  3. A holiday sounds like a perfect thing to look forward to and plan!
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
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    1. Holidays are always a good thing to book, I don't need an excuse really! xx

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  4. I definitely needed to read this today- I am feeling a little deflated this weekend! xx

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    1. Aw bless you, it is so odd when it's over isn't it! xx

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  5. These are great ideas, especially the regular date night. I was just saying to hubby it's been so long since we went to the movies together I can't even remember the last thing we saw! It's so much harder with kids.

    I found married life a bit overwhelming, as we had just bought the house together and moved in after the wedding and there was a lot to do and organise. The wedding seemed much easier, ha!

    Hope you are having a nice weekend! :) It's a busy one here, lots of rushing around, but also some family time which is nice :)

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    1. I can imagine it's so much more difficult with kids - we can just pop out whenever we want! Ah, we already lived together and had a house so I imagine there was much more change for you! It's much the same for us haha. xx

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