Sunday, 11 March 2018

What I Say vs What I Really Mean


I seem to have been enjoying writing lighthearted posts recently where I get to poke a bit of fun at myself - first this one where I admitted some of the stupid things I've done for Instagram and then this one about why I can't call myself a fashion blogger. I actually sat down today (it's Saturday so for me it's a little late to be writing Sunday's post completely from scratch but what's blogging without a little bit of stress eh?) intending to write a quite deep and meaningful post and I just really wasn't feeling it. Then this post popped into my head. I was having a conversation with someone the other day about how, as Brits, we are a little bit too polite and often say things we don't really mean just because we think we should. So I thought I'd apply that to some of the things I say when I really mean something else (is this the most nonsensical intro I've ever done? Possibly) and sum them up right here...

What I say: Yeah I might come for a few drinks.
What I mean: I really really don't want to come for a few drinks, but somehow I don't think 'I'd rather just go home and chill out with my cats' is a valid excuse so until I think of a better one, it's a maybe.

What I say: I had quite a chilled weekend really.
What I mean: I ran around like an athlete trying to get all my house jobs done, cleaned up various bodily fluids after my cats and stood outside without a coat for half an hour and forced my boyfriend to take photos of me then had a mini meltdown when I didn't like any of them, but for the sake of not sounding like I'm an absolute weirdo I'll just pretend I didn't really do anything.

What I say: I don't mind. 
What I mean: I definitely do mind and have an opinion on this, but I daren't actually tell you what it is in case you disagree and hate me forever so I'll just go along with whatever everyone else wants to do and then silently seethe when I don't get my own way (that I haven't even voiced).

What I say: I like my own space.
What I mean: Don't ask me to socialise for too long, definitely don't ask me on a night out. Basically, we'll be excellent friends if you just leave me alone.

What I say: I'm not a fussy eater, I'll eat anything really.
What I mean: I don't eat sugar and I'm vegan most of the time, but I don't want to appear awkward so I'll pretend I'm easy, then have to order just chips and explain myself when you question why.

What I say: Of course I'll swap shifts with you.
What I mean: I'll swap shifts with you, but I'm not very happy about it. I'll remember this and hold it against you until you've repaid me with an equal shift swap.

What I say: I mean, I am quite busy at the moment.
What I mean: If you ask me to do one more thing I might just curl up in a ball and cry because I have so much to do.

What I say: I'd rather not, but if you really need me to...
What I mean: No.

Do you have any examples of what you really mean when you say something completely different?

Amy x


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  1. What I say: I'd rather not, but if you really need me to...
    What I mean: No.

    I was absolutely cackling at this one, Amy! I love how your sense of humour shines through this post, and I must admit that you and I are pretty similar in our thinking here haha! I’m definitely too British as well and never really say what I think but it’s a very difficult mindset to get out of! Props to you for a fantastic post!

    Abbey ❤️ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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    1. Aw thank you Abbey! Haha and that is definitely another one of mine - too polite to say no so I just hint instead! xx

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  2. What I say: well my first degree was in drama and theatre arts... (they laugh)... yes I know

    What I mean: you may think that drama is a doss degree but I actually had several breakdowns completing the mammoth amount of written work, spent more hours in uni than most other people I knew, and learnt huge amounts about art movements, music, culture, others and myself. So fuck you actually.

    ���� I met some alright people too

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    1. Ahh Laz I'm SO bad at laughing at our degree to other people but we worked bloody hard didn't we? Thanks for commenting you gem <3 xxx

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  3. Ah the curse of British politeness. Hilarious post! Imagine what would happen if saying 'I don't mind' was banned even for a day...

    My pet peeve which I am so guilty of: saying sorry when I am at no fault whatsoever e.g someone else bumping into me whilst glued to their phone.

    What I mean: No YOU should be sorry you inconsiderate *insert swear word of choice* and cannot possibly have anything so important on your phone that you can't look where you are going.

    Elisha x

    http://gonebl0gging.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I think I'd be fairly silent if 'I don't mind' was banned for the day haha! Yesss I always say sorry to people who bump into me haha! xx

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  4. Ahahaha I love this.

    What I Say: Yeah if you really want to, it's up to you
    What I Mean: Dear god no, that is a terrible idea, please don't make me

    http://www.lauralovette.com

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    1. haha yesss that too! 'Up to you' basically means 'you'd better actually choose what I want though' xx

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  5. I can totally relate to these! I never say what I really think haha xx

    Gemma • Gemma Etc . ❤️

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    1. I think us Brits are particularly bad at it! xx

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  6. Loved this post! Have a great start to the new week.

    Gemma x
    www.jacquardflower.uk

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    1. Thanks Gemma, hope you had a lovely weekend xx

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  7. Haha I'm so guilty of doing this! I couldn't begin to imagine the amount of times I've said I don't mind about something, when actually I really do mind! x
    Jenny | Luxestyle

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    1. I don't know why I do it - as if the other person is going to hate me for having an opinion haha! xx

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  8. Guilty of /all/ of these! I was giggling to myself and nodding at the same time while reading this!

    xx, Richel V. | http://www.richelvergara.com

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    1. Haha well I'm glad it gave you a laugh and you could relate! xx

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  9. Haha! Totally relate to these!!
    Have a lovely day :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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  10. Lool I absolutely loved this post, and I can relate to so many of these. One of my friends recently asked me if I could give them $20 for a night out - that I wasn't even going to. I think my "I'd rather not, but..." was obvious enough haha.

    Amy;
    Wandering Everywhere

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    1. Haha that's so cheeky! Glad you liked the post :) xx

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  11. This is honestly the most relatable thing I've read! Sometimes I wish I weren't so worried about being polite and just said what I meant. This gave me such a good laugh!

    Shann Eileen | www.shanneileen.com

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    1. Haha aw I'm glad it gave you a laugh! I am far too polite! xx

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