Wednesday, 8 November 2017

Fire In My Feminist Belly


I've always considered myself a feminist, but it's only quite recently that it's properly dawned on me quite how much farther we have to go as a society to achieve equality. You might think that makes me naive and maybe it does, but it's not the obvious things like sexual harassment and unequal pay that I was ignorant of, it was my own attitude.  I've been feeling particularly riled recently what with the endless allegations that have surfaced and the fact that it just doesn't seem like enough is being done about them. I also think that for some reason I've been more aware of everyday sexism in recent months or maybe I've just had enough of it.

I'm growing increasingly sick of men leering at me in the street, making lewd comments about my body and it makes me mad that these men do the same to countless other women every single day as if it's their right. It annoys me that a lot of people still seem to think it's my job as the woman to do all the housework even though last time I checked I work the exact same, if not more, hours in the week as my boyfriend. And more than anything it frustrates so much when I hear the way some women talk about other women. I get that we only speak badly of each other to make us feel better about ourselves, but if we can't talk nicely about one another and lift each other up then how do we expect anyone else to be able to do that too?

It's not OK for me to think all of these things and not reevaluate my own attitude as well.


Which brings me back to what I mentioned in my first paragraph. What is my attitude to feminism and am I a massive hypocrite? I've come to think that maybe I am. I like to think I'm in a fairly equal relationship both in financial and emotional terms. But would I ever have considered proposing to Nick? Hell no. Not because I don't want to marry him (otherwise I obviously wouldn't have said yes and this would be awkward) but because I saw proposing as his job and a way of him showing me how much he cares. This realisation caused me some conflict of thoughts because tradition obviously pays a huge part in gender stereotyping so does all tradition need to be lost for us to truly be equal? Or am I thinking far too much into it? I don't know. This is one of those annoying blog posts without any sort of conclusion, but I'd love to know your thoughts on the topic.



And if you don't care about any of the above and you're just here for the outfit then this paragraph is for you. This jumper is my first new knitwear buy of the year and I actually only bought it because I needed cashback, but obviously I bloomin' adore it. I love the colours and the chevron effect and it's so soft and cosy, plus it was a bargain because 25% off Tu Clothing is my favourite. I layered it over the jumpsuit from this post because I thought they'd work well together and I think they do although I seem to be developing a theme of shapeless outfits recently. With the addition of my beloved rose gold trainers from New Look this is the perfect casual weekend outfit for me.

Amy x

Jumper - Tu Clothing (here) | Jumpsuit - Asos (here) | Trainers - New Look (old)




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  1. Lately I've been having a lot of the same feelings too and to be honest, I feel like more and more I'm noticing gender inequalities and the over-sexualisation of women and how women and their sexuality always seem to have to be intrinsically linked in order to succeed in certain jobs and roles. Like for example at the moment I've started acting and I LOVE seeing women play strong female roles, but seeing male acting coach's repeatedly tell women to be more overtly sexual in order to 'sell' a role just makes my skin crawl!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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    1. Ugh I bet acting is the worst for it! Good luck with landing some strong roles :) xx

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  2. Great post Amy, have you listened to The Guilty Feminist podcast?
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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    1. Thanks so much Rosanna! No I haven't actually, I'll give it a listen! xx

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  3. This is such an interesting topic and one I honestly can't imagine there ever being a conclusion to, so don't worry about that part haha. I get what you mean with regard to proposing, and yet also can obviously see the imbalance between the genders on other levels and I just... have no idea... I also have no conclusion either haha.

    aglassofice.com x

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    1. I feel like there is literally no conclusion! xx

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  4. Oooo this was a good one Amy!
    I am getting increasingly done with some typical bloke attitudes... (It's making me sound like a bitter man-hating gay if I'm totally honest!) but there's been a run of eye ball rolling moments, and the generally realisation that we're so far from equal views!
    Great post!
    xx

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    1. Yeah in some ways I feel like it's getting worse, but I think that might just be me becoming less naive/ignorant to it all! xx

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  5. I second the recommendation of the Guilty Feminist podcast. It's really excellent! X

    rhymeandribbons.com

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    1. Yes I definitely need to give it a listen! xx

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