Wednesday, 6 September 2017

Remembering to Live Offline Too


I imagine the majority of people reading this are as attached to their phone as I am - social media is the first thing I check in the morning and the last thing I check at night as well as multiple times during the day. Quite often I'm thinking about what I'm going to post on Instagram later rather than what I'm going to eat (although don't get me wrong, I definitely still think about food a lot.) Instead of sitting down and reading a book I'll probably scroll aimlessly through Twitter. When we go out for the day my thoughts are often consumed by also getting some outfit pictures or at least snapping some of the day on Instagram stories. I'm not quite sure when it happened, but my life seems to now revolve around being online and at some point I stopped living it to the full offline.

I used to rave about having social media free days, but when was the last time I had one of those? Probably months ago. Once upon a time I had very good intentions of me and Nick having one evening a week together phone-free. I think that happened maybe once. And although there's nothing necessarily bad with having an online presence, it becomes bad when it means you stop making the most of life offline. I think this is probably something we're all guilty of in varying degrees and hey, if you're happy living your life that way then what's wrong with that? But when it starts becoming a little bit obsessive, when it means that you're no longer able to enjoy life without social media and when you start playing that not so fun game called comparison, that's when it gets toxic. I was actually shadow banned earlier this week on Instagram and yes it's annoying and it feels like a lot of the fun has been taken out of my favourite platform, but it was kind of ridiculous how frustrated I was about it and that's what made me stop and take a long hard look at how much I rely on my online life.

I'm ashamed at how obsessed I am, I'm ashamed at how much thought I put into what to post on Instagram, I'm ashamed at the fact that if I have a few hours away from my phone I worry that I won't possibly be able to catch up on everyone else's photos and tweets. When did this happen? I've acknowledged that it's not good for me, it's definitely not healthy so now is the time to do something about it and make a vow to myself within a blog post because then I'll feel like I have to stick to it. So going forward I'm going to have one social media free evening a week and one full day off a month. There, I've said it so now I've got to stick to it.

Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with social media?

Amy x
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  1. I can totally relate to this. The shame didn't hit me until the recent Instagram hack thing and that made me more upset than should have. Time to step back and not care as much x

    www.wildfirecharm.com

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    1. The hack really got to me, but now a few days later I'm actually kind of grateful as it really made me take a step back and re-evaluate! xx

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  2. I need to make the same vow I think - because I literally could have written that top paragraph myself, I do feel like the online world consumes my entire brain sometimes. I worry all the time about not being able to catch up on Instagram when I've had a few hours away and if I don't have something lined up to post on Instagram myself I feel genuinely very stressed. It's completely ridiculous and you're right, when I do admit to Rob that I'm panicking about it I do really feel ashamed for getting so worked up over something so silly. I also feel guilty for spending the time we spend together on days out etc thinking about how I can create content out of it. Definitely needed to know other people also feel this way and a bit of a kick to take a step back too! xxx

    Sophie | Sophar So Good

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    1. Yeah, I hate that on days out I feel like it's not just about us having a day out anymore but about getting content, definitely need to take a step back! xx

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  3. One flu day off sounds amazing, I haven't done that before but I do tend to have a few hours away from it on a night time which helps! xxx

    www.natalieleanne.com

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    1. Ah that's great, I'm sure little and often works just as well! xx

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  4. This is a very relatable post, Amy! I think that FOMO drives so much of our social media dependence / addiction! It's very easy to be consumed entirely by your social media presence that you forget that life happens off Twitter as well as on it! I think your pledge to have more time phone-free will only be positive, I need to implement something similar in my life!

    Abbey 🌸 www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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    1. It will definitely be a positive step, I've noticed it already, I feel far less consumed by it just from having one day off this week! xx

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  5. I think most of us can relate to this post. I found myself quite obsessed with social media when I visited Greece - I'd just bought a new phone and could finally use snapchat without it freezing every few seconds. I enjoyed taking photos for Instagram but trying to update everyone on Snapchat, Instagram and Twitter just was a bit much. When I went away again, I had a social media detox for a couple of days and it was surprisingly easy and something I'd fully recommend, it feels so liberating xx

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    1. A social media detox really is great and I think just helps put everything into perspective because believe it or not we can actually function without our phones haha! xx

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  6. I know what you mean and that's why I have a card mobile, no Instagram and I don't use the computer in the evening and on Sundays. To have time away from the web. I still think I use the web quite a lot, but my measures were good to have time off. I know what you mean, today we go to a restaurant and see people using the phone to talk to people that sometimes they don't even know personally, while the partner does the same - instead of talking to each other. The food comes and the first thing is to photograph it and then post it to show to people what they are eating, people who many times couldn't care less about it. I respect what people want to do, but that is not for me and I am glad with the measures I took to avoid internet addiction :) When I travel for some weeks, I don't even check internet for some days. But that works for me, I don't know about others :) Loved your post!
    DenisesPlanet.com

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    1. That's great that you always have Sundays and evenings off, very disciplined! I need to do something similar xx

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  7. YES I am so so so obsessed! It is actually scary, I spend all my day on some form of social media and I have got to the stage where I just can't hack it haha! With all the madness happening with Instagram at the moment, I have started to re-evaluate how much I rely on an app. A reminder that I need to dedicate much more time into life outside social media. I may join you on your social media free time! Immy x

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    1. I'd totally recommend it, I'm feeling more chilled in general about Instagram and the like now and that's just after one day off! xx

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  8. What a great idea! I'm definitely guilty of being on my phone too much!!
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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    1. Thanks Rosanna, hope you had a lovely weekend! xx

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  9. I've started to take more and more breaks from social media and it's made me realise how much I needed a break! I haven't posted on my IG for 9 days! So I should probably get back on there! Hope you enjoy a break!
    Jaz xoxo
    http://www.thelifeofasocialbutterfly.co.uk

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    1. It's so nice to have a break though, I don't think there's anything wrong with not posting for a while! xx

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  10. I'm awful! I now leave my phone in another room in the evenings, if it's anywhere near me I end up picking it up without even realising and scrolling through social media. I pretend to myself I can multitask and concentrate on what Simon is saying or the TV show we're watching but I really can't! My phone is much better in a different room!

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    1. It's so easy to subconsciously pick it up isn't it! I need to start leaving mine in another room! xx

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  11. I was obsessed with social media for a year (particularly instagram), but I just had to cut it off for a while. Now I have an account, yes, but don't waste much of my time with it :)
    la veine chronicles

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    1. That sounds like a very healthy attitude to have :) x

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  12. I've been working on a post talking about how I "unplug" and should have it up soon. I love the idea of taking a break from the world and actually living in the moment. Lovely post, Amy xx

    Blessings,
    Edye | Http://gracefulcoffee.com

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    1. I look forward to reading your post :) xx

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