Everyone talks about how difficult long distance relationships are and I definitely agree with that, but a less talked about topic is long distance friendship, which can be equally hard to maintain. When you leave school or university and everyone disperses across the country (or sometimes even further) it's a real test and that's when you find out which friends are for life and which ones will just become a happy memory of your teenage years.
Last weekend I had another jolly to Glasgow where one of my best friends lives. I had the most perfect time. We didn't do anything particularly special, in fact we managed to watch an entire series of First Dates in two days, but to me that's what makes a real friendship - being able to do pretty much nothing in each other's company and still have a good time.
I'm going to do a complete U-turn three paragraphs into this post because I was planning on talking about the difficulties of long distance friendship (the 5 hour drive to Glasgow being up there) and how you can maintain them, but after writing that last paragraph I've realised something and instead of starting this post again I'm just going to go with it.
None of my long distance friendships are that difficult really - I mean obviously it's rubbish not seeing each other enough and not knowing every single detail of each other's lives like you maybe used to (that makes me sound like a creep but you know what I mean I hope), but essentially I guess long distance friendships are similar to long distance relationships in that as long as you both put in the effort they work. If they're really that difficult they're probably not worth it and that's why, sadly, people fizzle out of your life.
But the important ones stay, the ones who put in the same amount of effort as you, the ones you can pick up where you left off with and the ones whose company you genuinely enjoy without having to plan anything in particular. The only thing that should be difficult is that you miss each other and there's not really anything you can do about that.
I don't know how to end this post now that I've gone off topic, but writing it all out has made me happy. In a way I'm glad we've all ended up moving away from each other because it helped me learn who's for keeps and who's worth putting in the effort for. In a way I also wish they'd all just moved to the same street as me so we could all pop over to each other's houses every day, but swings and roundabouts.
How do you deal with long distance friendships?