Sunday, 10 April 2016

Why I Keep My Blog Secret

Yup, you read the title right, I keep this blog a secret from people I know. Shock horror.


My parents, boyfriend and two of my friends know, but that's it. I don't tell people about it and if someone were to ask what I do with my spare time I'm more likely to say not a lot rather than admit I spend it blogging.
I've read conflicting things from other bloggers - some are totally open about their blog (kudos to you guys) and some, like me, keep it a secret. I find it really interesting reading people's reasons for not telling others about their blog so I thought today I'd speak about mine.


When I started my blog I wasn't 100% sure if it was something I'd be able to keep up with and I said to myself that if I was still doing it in a few month's time and if it was 'doing well' I'd tell people about it. I didn't really want to tell loads of people that I was starting a blog, get them to read it and then give up on it within a few weeks. Turns out, it wasn't a fad and a year and a half later I'm still blogging. Problem is, once you've not told people something it becomes a bit awkward. How can I say to some of my closest friends 'oh by the way, I've had a blog for a year and a half, here it is'?
I'm ashamed to say I'm also afraid of judgement. I know I shouldn't be and I am proud of my blog and the content I produce, but there's this part of me that just thinks people will think it's stupid. I think unfortunately this is a common theme with bloggers, which is really sad, but the even sadder fact is that there will be people who would judge me if they knew about my blog so my fear isn't unfounded. This comes back to my 'doing well' point. I always think if my blog was doing a little better I wouldn't care about the judgement because I would be 'successful'. Turns out 'doing well' is harder to define than I thought it would be and it means different things to different people so although I may think I'm doing OK for a part time blogger others might wonder why I bother.


I think the time will come when I'll have to tell people about my blog. There are already some awkward conversations where I've had to explain my way out of things. One of my work colleagues asked me why on earth I'd had a blow dry one morning when all I was doing that day was going to work. Instead of admitting that I'd been invited to review the salon I pretended I'd had a free voucher posted through my door. She still thought it was weird.
I'd like to think I'll tell people soon, but who knows?
Do you keep your blog a secret or do you tell people? What influenced your choice?
Amy x
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  1. Blogging made me experience a level of vulnerability that I had never experienced before. As uncomfortable as that made me, I actually found people to be incredibly supportive. Love this post!

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    1. I'm so glad people were supportive of you - I find other bloggers incredibly supportive along with the few people I've told! Xx

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  2. I completely understand! I haven't told anyone about my blog yet because I feel they would judge me (even though I know they probably won't). Great post!

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    1. Thank you, I'm glad it's not just me who feels like that! X

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  3. Only a couple of my friends and my family know, they support me with what I do x
    http://www.thepastelstyle.blogspot.com

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    1. Glad they support you - I'm sure everybody would if I told them it's just a bit terrifying haha xx

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  4. I'm so with you on all of this. My main issue is that I know a lot of people just won't 'get' my blog. They won't understand that even if they don't find my posts interesting, someone else might. I don't really care if anyone I know in real life reads my blog, but I think I'd rather just not know... unless they have something ultra positive to say! If it came to a point where my blog was doing really well then I would consider posting links on my personal facebook etc, but the other thing is that I don't feel like i've invested enough in it to make it quite good enough yet!

    Imogen // imogenscribbles.co.uk

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    1. Yeah exactly - I just think because people might not 'get' it might mean they think badly of me - it's maybe silly and I'm sure one day I'll tell everyone but it's a bit terrifying putting yourself out there! Xx

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  5. I understand your choice not to tell anyone about your blog - when I started blogging I felt the same way but as time passed I continued to tell more people about it. My closest friends all know about my blog and something pretty funny happened a few days ago: my best friend (who lives on the other side of the world) defending blogging in front of her ignorant English teacher who called it stupid and a waste of time. I thought that was pretty cute, especially because she doesn't have anything to do with blogging. Anyway, I think it's easier to tell people and I'm sure your friends would understand why you kept it a secret. And I think we all have the fear of being judged (as everyone does who publishes something for the world to see) and the best thing we can do is upload content we are truly passionate about. And true friends will always support our decisions. xx

    113-things-to-say.blogspot.com

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    1. That's so true, I suppose I shouldn't be so worried about it because my friends I'm sure would be supportive even if they didn't understand it. That's so lovely about your friend standing up for blogging - you've obviously got a great friend there! Xx

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  6. i kind of have the same reason as yours. i am so afraid of the judgement that people give me. and that's why only my parents know about it

    jess x | wellwellgirls.blogspot.com

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    1. It is scary isn't it! Told a few more people now thought via Instagram and they've been supportive! Xx

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  7. For my blog, I realized I define what success is. I haven't hit what I think success is. I also realized I don't really care what others think. I blog for myself and those that like my blog not for those who are going to be judgmental.

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    1. That's a great attitude and one we should all have! X

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  8. Everyone has their own reasons for blogging, for the content they create, & whether they choose to share that with the people they know. You will get no judgment from me. I respect your decision. People didn't know about my blog for a long time. One day I thought it was no point hiding it because it's something I spent so much time on & was proud of. :]

    // ▲ itsCarmen.com ▲

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    1. Thank you for such a kind comment. It's good that you've told people now, I've told a couple more people since publishing this post and hopefully at some point I'll feel comfortable telling everyone! Xx

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  9. Love how honest this post is! Everyone I have on facebook knows but it makes me feeel vulnerable too and also like that I can't share or write everything I would want to without offending people AND people saying things and I am like how do you know? Oh my blog right. HAHA I think whatever you feel comfortable with is right not what everyone else does xxx

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    1. Thanks hun, people on my Instagram know now but I don't actually have that many people on there who aren't bloggers haha, the thought of putting it on Facebook is terrifying but hopefully one day! Xxx

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  10. This makes me a little sad hun, I love your blog and you definitely shouldn't worry about judgement. Having said that, I totally get it. My family beyond parents/sibling only found out after it became my job, and some of frriends only through social media. It is really difficult but be proud, you have something amazing <3

    Elle
    www.theellenextdoor.com
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    1. Thank you so much Elle that means a lot. I actually let a couple more of my friends read this post and they were so supportive. Good to know you were the same at one point, hopefully i'll feel comfortable telling more people soon! Xx

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  11. I can relate to this so much and I've actually wrote a post on it myself! I always thought that when my blog was successful I'd tell people. At the moment I think my blog is doing pretty well but I still do feel like it's good enough! A few people have found out about it and I kind of just take less measure to hide it. I even put my blog link on my instagram page lately which does have some people from real life on it. I figure if they find it then I'll just be like okay great.

    The people that know about it so far have been really supportive. There are some guy work colleagues that don't really care because it's not what they're interested in it so whatever :)

    Corinne x
    www.skinnedcartree.com

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    1. Yeah I remember reading yours! Was good to know I wasn't alone and definitely made me more confident in writing this! I think from the response to this post I'm actually wondering why I care so much about people finding out! My link is on my Instagram but only my best friend found it through that (that I know of anyway!) think I might start covering it up less and try not to care! Xx

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  12. I agree with you on the fear of judgment and "doing well" issues so I understand why you don't want to tell people about it. However if you are proud of it you shouldn't care what people think! I tell anyone who will listen about my blog :) I'm doing "ok" but I love blogging so much that I don't mind :)

    www.makeupisdelish.com

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    1. True I really shouldn't care! The comments on this post are making me realise that more and more! Xx

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  13. Know that you have something very special going on here x

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    1. Thank you so much that's so kind :) xx

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  14. I´m kind of keeping my blog a bit of a secret, I guess. Most of my friends and my sister know (but none of them really care enough to read it though besides my sister) but I keep it a secret from my parents. That´s the way I always want it to be. My parents are terrified by how open the internet is to everyone and they have mentioned a few times that they thing blogging & youtube are nonsense, so I´d rather have them not knowing as I know my way around it.
    xx Lisa | Following Lisa

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    1. That's a shame, I guess sometimes parents don't know enough about blogging to be able to understand it. Glad you've told others though and hope you're able to tell your parents eventually! Xx

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  15. A really honest post; i think lots of people can relate to this!

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    1. Thank you, yes I'm surprised how many people can! Xx

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  16. Oh my, Amy you spoke my mind in this post. I always thought i am the only person on this earth who thinks this way. Besides my family, nobody know. I keep my blog life completely away from my personal. I have never joined my personal and blog social media's together, cause i always felt id be made fun of. as i wasn't good enough to do what i am doing. Just always had a fear of being judged. wow, your post makes me feel normal hahaha in a very very good. Sometimes its really good to know that there are other people who share the same fears as you. Thank you for this post, its helped.

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    1. Wow thank you for your comment, I'm so glad you can relate to this and that it's helped you in some way! Hopefully this will help even more as all the nice comments I received on this post encourages me to tell people about my blog - I started small by telling a few and got so much support that I'll now tell anyone. People are much more supportive than you would think and I was so surprised, however I totally get why you would keep it a secret, having been there!
      Amy xx
      www.callmeamy.co.uk

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